A family that shares love enjoys itself even when living on modest means. Ancient wisdom clarifies that a person who is happy and contented has a better sleep that one who is still looking for something and ignores what he or she already has. A daily practice of gratitude leads to calmness and clarity of ideas. It eliminates tension associated with seeing situations as bad, and forgetting what is wonderful in life. A family that cultivates gratitude extends the understanding of different circumstances that affect it. Practicing appreciation is essential in planning because it leaves you with a feeling of optimism.
The following are practical ways of cultivation gratitude among your family members.
Begin by appreciating all family members. It is one thing to read about the need for thankfulness and to actual practice it. Tell yourself and your family that they make you feel great. Inform them of the fact that without them, you would feel rather empty. Acknowledge their presence whenever you have the opportunity to do so.
Have a soft spot for mistakes. Accepting that people have imperfection is a step forward into living peacefully and happily with them. Replace all jeers with a heartfelt cheers when a family member should some improvement in anything they do. Someone who notices progress is often a welcome encouragement for people to keep working on improvement.
Pat your husband, wife, children or parent in the back. Tell them you are proud of them and would like them to keep their good work. This may be after they follow a request you give them. For example, if you ask anyone to eat on the dining table and not on the couch, applaud when a family member heeds of the advice.
Practice mindfulness of your actions. Words do not conjure a feeling as intense as actions do. If you are good at something, there is a high chance that you have been practicing a lot, or have actually had a long experience doing the same thing. Congratulations work the same way in your home. Doing it over time makes it a habit and soon everyone would prefer to look at the positive side of situations at home.
Make frequent toasts to small wins. Do not wait for someone to win a race, come top of the class or even out-perform colleagues at work, for you to congratulate them. Instead, make small celebrations as they make small celebrations in their daily activities. If appreciation happens this way, there will be no feeling of neglect when one misses the big event.
Understand that you can only change your attitude towards another person by cannot change them. Arguments with others about home issues such as family trips, home improvement projects and even the choice of subscription services often arise when people only see the bad in the other person. Changing attitudes towards the other person is the first part of altering their perspective. Try using congratulations on yourself for accepting them as who they are. You should also use congratulations on them as outlined above and you will notice the power of appreciation in resolving family tensions.